My husband was a child of the bed. His mother was not Muslim when she met his father and had children with him. After having their oldest child, my husband, his father left when he was two years old. His father left due to issues that was going on between my husband’s mother and him when they were together. They had a chance to reconcile when my husband was sent to live with him when he was 14 yrs old, this is when he met me because his father had kicked him out and told him to go an explore NYC. Now in later years after sooo many failed attempts my father-in-law wants to come in his life and this time I believe that his intentions are clear, but my husband wants nothing to do with him because of how he abandoned him when he was young and how he mistreated him when his mother sent my husband to live with him when he was 14. I feel as if I am stuck in the middle of it, but my husband told me, “find a daleel or hadith that states I have to show him respect as my father and I will.” He says that if Islam does not require for him to admit that they share blood then he will have nothing to do with his father. My main question is: Is there anything Islamic that states that a Kufar man who has a child out of wedlock with a women who then becomes Muslim may have the privilege to keep in contact and deal with the children that he had with her? Or are they the children of the bed and he has no right to neither of them to build a relationship with them?

DWQA Questions › Category: Miscellaneous › My husband was a child of the bed. His mother was not Muslim when she met his father and had children with him. After having their oldest child, my husband, his father left when he was two years old. His father left due to issues that was going on between my husband’s mother and him when they were together. They had a chance to reconcile when my husband was sent to live with him when he was 14 yrs old, this is when he met me because his father had kicked him out and told him to go an explore NYC. Now in later years after sooo many failed attempts my father-in-law wants to come in his life and this time I believe that his intentions are clear, but my husband wants nothing to do with him because of how he abandoned him when he was young and how he mistreated him when his mother sent my husband to live with him when he was 14. I feel as if I am stuck in the middle of it, but my husband told me, “find a daleel or hadith that states I have to show him respect as my father and I will.” He says that if Islam does not require for him to admit that they share blood then he will have nothing to do with his father. My main question is: Is there anything Islamic that states that a Kufar man who has a child out of wedlock with a women who then becomes Muslim may have the privilege to keep in contact and deal with the children that he had with her? Or are they the children of the bed and he has no right to neither of them to build a relationship with them?

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JonSnow Staff asked 4 years ago

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JonSnow Staff answered 4 years ago

The child born outside the bond of marriage is not the father`s child as per shariah. No inheritance, no family ties and no respect as father found in books. The holy prophet SAW said that the adulterer merit only stones to be pelted on him. Nothing more.
But he is the means for him be born. As such fuqahas have expressed that the daughter born from adultery cannot marry the adulterer. Because he is the means for her to be born. As such there is a kind of consideration on that. But he is a human being and merit kindness as any human being. Even if a non muslim is in difficulty, we need to help him.