Du'as of parents.

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DU`AS OF PARENTS.

If you have parents, then try your best to get their du`as. Do their khidmats, sit in front of them, talk with them and see for their comforts. Swim against the opposite current of your daily activities and find some time to be in front of them. Because a time may come that you won`t see them and there will be no opportunity for you to get those doors of duas. And try your most to avoid their bad du`as or curses. Because I have seen individuals walking feely but condemned to life-long ill fates due to curses of their father or mother. If I am being able to write a few lines in front of you is because I had a ‘’du`a machine mother’’. She was constant in her du`as night and day, crying for her children, striving through diseases to see the well being of her children. During childhood, she used to tell us: ‘’Pray your salaah and look for Allah Ta`ala`s help.’’ Alhamdulillah, I accompanied her during her last Hajj trip. She was obsessively in love with the Haramein. Descending from the plane from the lift, holding her wheelchair she burst into tears seeing the sacred sand of Haram. An obsession love that I am trying to get, but in vain. She would stay in du`as during tawaafs, seeing the ka`bah and visiting Madinah Munawwarah. A du`as machine that would not stop working day and night.During the last 4 years, I tried my utmost to be in front of my father, Alhamdulillah. He was an active businessman, walking healthily. Opening the Masjid at Fajr time, he would not leave until he prayed Israaq. Old age pain and his few medical complaints did not stop his will to continue with his pious business life. Lastly, I told him that I should accompany him during his medical trip. But he advised me to look after his affairs home. Paying a few debts to his business friends, he told them that it will be the last meeting with them. He had a ‘’istighnaa’’ quality, a patient silence and an encompassing heart to include even enemies. I would sometimes tell him that I would accompany him to his work. He would refuse and walk alone doing his job. His honesty and will to help others won a whole island`s heart. Insha Allah, I hope-insha Allah-that Allah Ta`ala accept him amongst:سنن الترمذي – ()عَنْ سُفْيَانَ عَنْ أَبِي حَمْزَةَ عَنْ الْحَسَنِ عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍعَنْ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ التَّاجِرُ الصَّدُوقُ الْأَمِينُ مَعَ النَّبِيِّينَ وَالصِّدِّيقِينَ وَالشُّهَدَاءِRasouloullah Swalallahou `Alaihi Wasallam said: ‘’A truthful honest businessman will be with prophets, siddiqs and martyrs.’’(Tirmizi)
 A dangerous sea of silence.My father had the quality to answer offenders and ill manners with silence. You see, this is more dangerous for the offenders. Because Allah Ta`ala answers for the one who stays silent.مسند أحمد ط الرسالة – ()حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى، عَنِ ابْنِ عَجْلَانَ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا سَعِيدُ بْنُ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، أَنَّ رَجُلًا شَتَمَ أَبَا بَكْرٍ وَالنَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ جَالِسٌ، فَجَعَلَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَعْجَبُ وَيَتَبَسَّمُ، فَلَمَّا أَكْثَرَ رَدَّ عَلَيْهِ بَعْضَ قَوْلِهِ، فَغَضِبَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَقَامَ، فَلَحِقَهُ أَبُو بَكْرٍ، فَقَالَ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ كَانَ يَشْتُمُنِي وَأَنْتَ جَالِسٌ، فَلَمَّا رَدَدْتُ عَلَيْهِ بَعْضَ قَوْلِهِ، غَضِبْتَ وَقُمْتَ، قَالَ: ” إِنَّهُ كَانَ مَعَكَ مَلَكٌ يَرُدُّ عَنْكَ، فَلَمَّا رَدَدْتَ عَلَيْهِ بَعْضَ قَوْلِهِ، وَقَعَ الشَّيْطَانُ، فَلَمْ أَكُنْ لِأَقْعُدَ مَعَ الشَّيْطَانِ “ثُمَّ قَالَ: ” يَا أَبَا بَكْرٍ ثَلَاثٌ كُلُّهُنَّ حَقٌّ: مَا مِنْ عَبْدٍ ظُلِمَ بِمَظْلَمَةٍ فَيُغْضِي عَنْهَا لِلَّهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ، إِلَّا أَعَزَّ اللهُ بِهَا نَصْرَهُ، وَمَا فَتَحَ رَجُلٌ بَابَ عَطِيَّةٍ، يُرِيدُ بِهَا صِلَةً، إِلَّا زَادَهُ اللهُ بِهَا كَثْرَةً، وَمَا فَتَحَ رَجُلٌ بَابَ مَسْأَلَةٍ، يُرِيدُ بِهَا كَثْرَةً، إِلَّا زَادَهُ اللهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ بِهَا قِلَّةً
 Reported in Ahmad and Baihaqi that Rasouloullah Swalallahou `Alaihi Wasallam told Abu Bakr r.a. that when someone was swearing at him during his silence, then an angel was rebuking the offender. So Rasouloullah Swalallahou `Alaihi Wasallam sat observing happily with smile. And when Abu Bakr r.a. started to answer him, the angel went away and hence Rasouloullah Swalallahou `Alaihi Wasallam stood up angrily. My father had the sunnah practice of giving discount to the customers. In front of him, people were telling him that they leave his shop with du`as in their hearts. I believe that it is with the barkah of these sadaqahs that he had a long healthy life, Alhamdulillah.سنن أبى داود – () عَنْ سِمَاكِ بْنِ حَرْبٍ حَدَّثَنِي سُوَيْدُ بْنُ قَيْسٍ قَالَجَلَبْتُ أَنَا وَمَخْرَفَةُ الْعَبْدِيُّ بَزًّا مِنْ هَجَرَ فَأَتَيْنَا بِهِ مَكَّةَ فَجَاءَنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَمْشِي فَسَاوَمَنَا بِسَرَاوِيلَ فَبِعْنَاهُ وَثَمَّ رَجُلٌ يَزِنُ بِالْأَجْرِ فَقَالَ لَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ زِنْ وَأَرْجِحْ
 As a buyer paying, Rasouloullah Swalallahou `Alaihi Wasallam said: ‘’pay a bit more to the seller’’.(Abu Dawood)صحيح البخاري – ()عن عبد الملك عن ربعي عن حذيفة رضي الله عنه قال سمعت النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول مات رجل فقيل له قال كنت أبايع الناس فأتجوز عن الموسر وأخفف عن المعسر فغفر لهRasouloullah Swalallahou `Alaihi Wasallam said that when a businessman passed away, he was forgiven on his softness during his dealings to the people. He pleased the well off customers and eased the poor customers- Bukhariصحيح مسلم -)وَعَلِيُّ بْنُ حُجْرٍ السَّعْدِيُّ كُلُّهُمْ عَنْ ابْنِ عُلَيَّةَ وَاللَّفْظُ لِيَحْيَى قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ عُلَيَّةَ أَخْبَرَنَا عَبْدُ الْعَزِيزِ بْنُ صُهَيْبٍ عَنْ أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ قَالَمُرَّ بِجَنَازَةٍ فَأُثْنِيَ عَلَيْهَا خَيْرًا فَقَالَ نَبِيُّ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَجَبَتْ وَجَبَتْ وَجَبَتْ وَمُرَّ بِجَنَازَةٍ فَأُثْنِيَ عَلَيْهَا شَرًّا فَقَالَ نَبِيُّ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَجَبَتْ وَجَبَتْ وَجَبَتْ قَالَ عُمَرُ فِدًى لَكَ أَبِي وَأُمِّي مُرَّ بِجَنَازَةٍ فَأُثْنِيَ عَلَيْهَا خَيْرٌ فَقُلْتَ وَجَبَتْ وَجَبَتْ وَجَبَتْ وَمُرَّ بِجَنَازَةٍ فَأُثْنِيَ عَلَيْهَا شَرٌّ فَقُلْتَ وَجَبَتْ وَجَبَتْ وَجَبَتْ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ أَثْنَيْتُمْ عَلَيْهِ خَيْرًا وَجَبَتْ لَهُ الْجَنَّةُ وَمَنْ أَثْنَيْتُمْ عَلَيْهِ شَرًّا وَجَبَتْ لَهُ النَّارُ أَنْتُمْ شُهَدَاءُ اللَّهِ فِي الْأَرْضِ أَنْتُمْ شُهَدَاءُ اللَّهِ فِي الْأَرْضِ أَنْتُمْ شُهَدَاءُ اللَّهِ فِي الْأَرْضِRasouloullah Swalallahou `Alaihi Wasallam said that if people talk of good on a deceased, then jannat will Insha Allah be wajib upon him-Muslim.It takes years of good relations to build confidence and appreciation of people. Pious people are the representatives of Allah on the surface of the earth. Their appreciative words are counted above the seven heavens. Overhere a whole island is lamenting the demise of my father. They are saying ‘’They lost their father.’’Finally, for those who lost their parents, then keep good ties with the family connections of the parents and act kindly with parent’s friends and their family:
 حَدَّثَنا حَسَنُ بْنُ عَلِيٍّ الحُلْوانِيُّ، حَدَّثَنا يَعْقُوبُ بْنُ إبْراهِيمَ بْنِ سَعْدٍ، حَدَّثَنا أبِي، واللَّيْثُ بْنُ سَعْدٍ، جَمِيعًا عَنْ يَزِيدَ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ أُسامَةَ بْنِ الهادِ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ دِينارٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ، أنَّهُ كانَ إذا خَرَجَ إلى مَكَّةَ، كانَ لَهُ حِمارٌ يَتَرَوَّحُ عَلَيْهِ، إذا مَلَّ رُكُوبَ الرّاحِلَةِ وعِمامَةٌ يَشُدُّ بِها رَأْسَهُ، فَبَيْنا هُوَ يَوْمًا عَلى ذَلِكَ الحِمارِ، إذْ مَرَّ بِهِ أعْرابِيٌّ، فَقالَ: ألَسْتَ ابْنَ فُلانِ بْنِ فُلانٍ، قالَ: بَلى، فَأعْطاهُ الحِمارَ، وقالَ: ارْكَبْ هَذا والعِمامَةَ، قالَ: اشْدُدْ بِها رَأْسَكَ، فَقالَ لَهُ: بَعْضُ أصْحابِهِ غَفَرَ اللهُ لَكَ أعْطَيْتَ هَذا الأعْرابِيَّ حِمارًا كُنْتَ تَرَوَّحُ عَلَيْهِ، وعِمامَةً كُنْتَ تَشُدُّ بِها رَأْسَكَ، فَقالَ: إنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ: «إنَّ مِن أبَرِّ البِرِّ صِلَةَ الرَّجُلِ أهْلَ وُدِّ أبِيهِ بَعْدَ أنْ يُوَلِّيَ وإنَّ أباهُ كانَ صَدِيقًا لِعُمَرَ»مسلم*In the above riwayah hazrat Ibn Umar ra gifted the son of a friend of his father his transport and imaamah. Then he said that Rasouloullah Swalallahou Alaihi Wasallam said : “Certainly one of noblest of all good actions is to keep good ties with the family of the friends of your father after his demise.”* Remember us in your du`as.

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