|After the month of Ramadhan, comes the month of Shawwal.|
The month of Shawaal is the first month of Hajj. That is, it is permissible to say labbaik for Hajj as from this month, not before that. You should note that when travelling was difficult and lengthy, then people used to spare 6 months for Hajj travels.
Also during that month, it is recommended to observe six additional days’ fast. These fasting days are not compulsory, but have been recommended by the beloved Prophet Muhammad (saw) who has stated: “Whoever fasts the month of Ramadhan and follows it up by six days of fasting in Shawwal, then he will be rewarded as if he has fasted during the whole year. “ (Abu Dawood)
These fasts can be kept on any day during the month of Shawaal. For those ladies who have years of qaza fasts, then you should replace first your fasts, instead of observing these nafils. But if only this Ramadhaan qazas on account, then permissible to observe nafils. You should try to replace this years` missed fasts(due to menses) before the next Ramadhaan.
Other recommendation of the month of Shawwal: Wedding!
According to a narration reported by Muslim, our mother Aisha (ra) has stated that her marriage was celebrated during the month of Shawwal. And the marriage was consummated two years later during that same month. From then, hazrat Aisha r.a. used to get the married girls of her family to stay by their husband during the month of Shawwal.(Bukhari) In fact, imaam Bukhari entitle this hadith by the this title: ‘’Recommendation to marry, to contract marriage and to go by husband`s house during the month of Shawaal.’’بَاب اسْتِحْبَابِ التَّزَوُّجِ وَالتَّزْوِيجِ فِي شَوَّالٍ وَاسْتِحْبَابِ الدُّخُولِ فِيهِ
عَنْ عَائِشَةَ قَالَتْ تَزَوَّجَنِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فِي شَوَّالٍ وَبَنَى بِي فِي شَوَّالٍ فَأَيُّ نِسَاءِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ كَانَ أَحْظَى عِنْدَهُ مِنِّي قَالَ وَكَانَتْ عَائِشَةُ تَسْتَحِبُّ أَنْ تُدْخِلَ نِسَاءَهَا فِي شَوَّالٍ صَحِيحٌ بُخَارِيٌّ
Hence, basing on practice of Hazrat Aisha r.a., given that no other issues retarded, one may choose this month to get married. In fact, the wedding of Aisha (ra) to the Prophet of Allah (saw) is a subject that had to be it explained to the present generation.
The age of Hazrat Aisha r.a. arise oddness even between muslims nowadays. The non muslims take the issue to a mockery and insulting the pioneers of our Religion: the beloved prophet SAW and our mother, Aisha r.a(May Allah protect us). Beware that mockery, ill words or bad comments on such issues is kufr and nullify one`s imaan and good actions.عَنْ عَائِشَةَ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ تَزَوَّجَهَا وَهِيَ بِنْتُ سِتِّ سِنِينَ وَبَنَى بِهَا وَهِيَ بِنْتُ تِسْعِ سِنِينَ صَحِيحٌ بُخَارِيٌّ
Hazrat Aisha r.a. said: ‘’The beloved prophet SAW married her while she was 6 years old. And she went to stay by the prophet SAW at the age of 9 years old.’’(Sahih Bukhari)
The matter of infancy of Aisha r.a. is often questionable to this present era. To such an extent that some try to dwarf the whole issue by opposing this sahih hadith of Bukhari.
But one should note that this was not the case in the past eras. In fact my ascendants and your ascendants have been marrying at such young age. This was considered mature and normal in past eras to marry as young as Aisha r.a.
I will not look for historic pages for that, but I want to show the reality of this fact not far from us, as one century ago. This year, on Eid day, I visited my grand mother in law, that is my wife`s grand mother. She is from a South African lineage Vaid and married to Cassam Motala. Both of them are still alive Alhamdulillah. Mrs Amina Motala is now 90 years old. But she is sound of mind and has good memory still. She told us that her mother got married to his father at the age of 9!
Now this is one century ago. Imagine now 14 centuries ago. People will be more strong and more mature that time. Likewise, I recall that my paternal grand mother got married at such age. So, it was a normal practice to marry girls at young age in past centuries. The girls were mature enough to handle family life and also they were more responsible at that age as a girl of 18 will be in our time.
So no such question should be arised to accuse the beloved prophet SAW or Abu Bakr r.a. Because in your ascendants, they were continuously for long marrying their daughters at very young age.
The weakness of our physical and mental maturity of our present generation that makes us find ideal to marry a girl around 20 years old.
Furthermore, had this been an abnormal practice to marry at 9 years at that time, then the opposing parties to the prophet would have used this an opportunity to accuse the prophet on this marriage to Aisha r.a. But not one word to this effect is recorded by the sayings at that time. Not in Makkah nor in Madinah. So this was normal to marry a young girl.
Also note that Hazrat Aisha r.a. was precocious physically and intellectually. She was developed physically and mentally so that her parents would insist to drop her to her husband. It is reported from Mustadrak and Tabrani that Abu Bakr r.a. came to the beloved prophet SAW asking him why he is not taking his bride home? In fact hazrat Aisha stayed by her father`s house after nikah for about 3 years. The beloved prophet SAW replied that he lacked finance for the dowry. Then Abu Bakr r.a. himself gave the prophet SAW the dowry amount and sent to the house of Abu Bakr r.a.! Now if hazrat Aisha r.a. was too young, then why would his father ask the prophet the reason for not taking her home? And to judge whether Aisha r.a. was too young or not is not my or your view. It is the view of her parents. And her parents was so keen of this wedding that they insisted that the beloved prophet SAW take Aisha in his custody.قال أبو بكر : يا رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ، ما يمنعك أن تبني بأهلك ؟ فقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : « الصداق » فأعطاه أبو بكر اثنتي عشرة أوقية ونشا ، فبعث بها رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم إلينا وبنى بي رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم في بيتي هذا الذي أنا فيه ، وهو الذي توفي فيه رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ودفن فيه المستدرك للحاكم
In fact, the qualities of our mother Aisha r.a. benefitted the ummah a lot. She asked questions that no one asked and held an education from the prophet that great scholar sahabas used to ask her opinion on pertinent fatwas.
In fact, Abu Bakr (ra) did much good to the Ummah offering her intelligent pious daughter to the beloved prophet SAW. It was the best of eras, the verses of the Qur’an were being revealed and the ahadith of the Prophet (saw) had to be safeguarded. Her memory was exceptional: She had learnt the whole Qur’an as well as thousands of ahadith. She reported 2210 ahadiths altogether. Moreover, she had, thanks to her wisdom, helped in the proper understanding of Islamic Jurisprudence.
The wisdom behind the wedding to Aisha (ra)
It is a fact that a man has a life outside the home and another life inside. During the day, his life is spent outside and at night, inside. Sahabahs like Abu Hurairah (ra) can narrate thousands of ahadith, sayings and sunnahs of the Prophet (saw) on various topics outside his house. But who will narrate to us those important sunnahs taking place inside the house? It is only the wives who can tell us about the habits of their husband. The wives of Prophet Muhammad (saw) were in a position to describe to us the sunnahs taking place inside the house. Without them, a strong hold of sunnahs would have remained concealed.
Every one of the wives was a different person as regards many things; they had all a natural likings, were of different I.Q. and some were older than others. Among the wives of the Prophet (saw), it was Aisha (ra) who was the most excellent. A narration in Tafseer Kabeer reports that the Prophet (saw) has said: “Seek a great deal of Islamic education from Humairah (Aisha (ra)”. Her inquisitive nature had perfected her knowledge of Islam.
Hazrat Aisha r.a keeps the monopoly on reports such like the shape of the Ka`bah, the best place to pray in Masjid An Nabawi(Ustuwana Aisha r.a.), the du`a during lailatul Qadr, Shabe Baraat, the limits of husband and wife during fasting, and so on.
Aisha (ra) as a role model
Hazrat Aisha (ra) had learnt the Qur’an and its sciences during the nine years she lived with the Prophet (saw). Her learning and her thirst for knowledge were so deep that, whenever the erudite sahabahs could not agree among themselves in matter of jurisprudence, they always had recourse to Aisha (ra) for a solution. It is for this reason that it is proclaimed very clearly that there is no discrimination towards the feminine gender in Islam. Our mother Aisha (ra) has so highly climbed the steps of taqwa (fear of Allah), piety and learning that her name has been inscribed among the elite women of Islam. (Muslim)
The Prophet (saw) had nine wives; however, the human heart can only love one of them. A hadith of Tirmizi narrates that, when the prophet SAW was asked: “Who you love the most?” he had replied: “Aisha (ra).” “And among men?” he had replied: “Her father(Abu Bakr (ra)).” (Tirmizi). Believe me, the greatness of our mother Aisha (ra) has not been sufficiently recognized. Even the Prophet (saw) selected the presence of Aisha (ra) during difficult times. The verses regarding tayammum were revealed around circumstances concerning our mother Aisha (ra). She had received the greetings of angel Jibrael (as). Wasn’t she the one who was at the bedside of the Prophet (saw) when he left this world? These few lines will make you have a proper judgment on the greatness of our mother (ra): when Prophet Yusuf (as) was accused, a child had defended him; when Juraij was accused, an infant had pleaded for him; when Maryam (virgin Mary) was accused, her son Jesus (as) had defended her honour; but when our mother Aisha (as) was falsely accused, then Allah Ta’ala himself, the Supreme Lord, who defended her by revealing the verses of the Qur’an.
So be more respectful towards her. Those who were disrespectful towards her found no success in this world. While those who showed respect towards her were successful. This is merely because she was the most beloved human being to Rasouloullah SAW. The one who shows disrespect to any sahabah have indeed harmed the beloved prophet SAW. (Sahih Ibn Hibaan)قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : « الله الله في أصحابي ، لا تتخذوا أصحابي غرضا من أحبهم ، فبحبي أحبهم ، ومن أبغضهم فببغضي أبغضهم ، ومن آذاهم فقد آذاني ، ومن آذاني فقد آذى الله ، ومن آذى الله يوشك أن يأخذه صحيح ابن حبان
The beloved prophet SAW said: ‘’Be afraid of Allah as regards to your attitude towards my companions. (Twice)…Those who have hurt them have indeed hurt me. The one who hurt me have indeed hurt Allah Ta`ala. And the one who hurt Allah Ta`ala, then He will take vengeance with him very quickly.’’(Sahih Ibn Hibbaan) Some commented that such persons will not live long.